We all have those 'stressful' people and those 'stressful' situations in our lives. And when the two combine so you have 'stressful' people amping up a 'stressful' situation, the drama can be overwhelming. Especially when you have a chronic ailment (or seven).
I have learned how to cope with this. Through avoidance.
If I am stressed because for any reason, I let me become harder to reach. (I am spilling a secret here.) I go into snooze mode. If I am having enough problems with my own emotional or physical self for whatever reason, I tend to 'miss' phone calls, texts, and emails. I don't get back to people for a few hours, days, weeks, depending on the situation.
I will check to make sure there aren't any real disasters or medical issues that I need to deal with, but otherwise they go into snooze mode. This is my way of lowering my stress level and allowing me to cope with my issues. Also, sometimes a quick reaction is not the best in a difficult situation.
Honestly when I am having my own issues I can't cope with yours. So please don't make me. Its not that I don't want to hear from you but sometimes I just can't even talk on the phone or send a quick text or email. I need to go into my hibernation until I can cope again.
Chronic illnesses complicate a lot of things - especially relationships. But please don't blame me if I can't cope with your situations and drama right away.
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